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Loneliness after the cancer diagnosis - it doesn't have to be

Do you feel lonely and abandoned? With these 5 tips the way out of loneliness succeeds.

Do you sometimes feel lonely and abandoned? Do you have the feeling that nobody can really understand you and your thoughts? This is by no means unusual in the context of cancer. The day before you had a completely "normal" life and then the next day everything is upside down. The diagnosis changes everything. And hardly an outsider - even if it is about friends or family, can understand what is going on inside you. At the beginning of the illness, everyday life is usually quite hectic, characterized by doctor's appointments, examinations and upcoming treatments. In addition, it is important to come to terms with the diagnosis - fear, anger and sadness may germinate. This can lead to you additionally withdrawing into yourself. Sometimes this may be okay for you or even important and desired. But sometimes it can also happen that you unintentionally feel isolated and lonely - for whatever reason. In this case, we have put together 5 tips for you below on how you can escape loneliness and feel welcome and in good hands in your world again.

Get out of bed

Believe me, almost all cancer patients know this: you would like to spend the whole day in bed, are too tired from all the examinations or treatment and do not have the strength to do more than one or two things a day. The biggest hurdle is getting up in the morning. But to remain lying in this moment would be the wrong decision. Of course there can be days when it doesn't work at all and just resting is the order of the day.
On all other days: Get out of bed and try to stick to the "normal" everyday routine. Get up, shower, have breakfast, go out - maybe go for a walk or go to the supermarket around the corner and get some groceries. Participating in an exercise group for cancer patients can also be helpful. Here you will meet like-minded people and the regular and fixed appointments force you to be active and exercise. And that, in turn, can help you feel better.

Write it all down

This may sound strange, but sometimes it can be helpful to write down all of your experiences, observations, and feelings. This forces you to review the day again. To reconsider everything that has been experienced, whether good or bad. Maybe this opens up a whole new perspective, shows new ways and you can better classify your feelings. Sure, writing a diary does not bring you directly into contact with others and out of loneliness, but it may open up another perspective to better understand yourself and others.

Say it out loud

In order to change something, it is sometimes enough to tell yourself what you actually want. Try to sort your thoughts and put them into clear words and then speak them out loud.
When you feel alone, remember that it doesn't have to be. There are people you can call or speak to. Even if they may not know exactly what you are currently experiencing or going through, they can still take away the feeling of loneliness. When dealing with loved ones, you should always say out loud what you think and feel: “I feel alone. I have the feeling that nobody understands me. ”Sometimes just knowing that you have been heard helps and you feel better.
If you don't want to talk to your family or friends about your illness or your feelings, it can also be helpful to visit a support group. There you will meet like-minded people who were exactly where you are now, who share the same experiences. This can be comforting and encouraging at the same time. Or you seek professional help from a psycho-oncologist or in a therapeutic discussion group near you.

Find like-minded people

For most types of cancer there are so-called self-help or patient groups in this country. Often your treating doctor or the clinic can provide you with information on groups or organizations / associations in your area. It is also worth taking a look at the Internet: Many groups have extensive websites with information about the disease and treatment, but also contact points and group meetings. Courage, the exchange with like-minded people is definitely worth it.

Start a group yourself

If there are no group meetings in your area, why not found a self-help group yourself? If you have the energy and the strength to do charitable work, it doesn't just help you. You can easily get out of loneliness, meet other patients regularly, exchange ideas and be needed again. At the same time, you are also doing something good for other sufferers. Why not? Just think about it.