What happened to Meera Bai

The meaning of true love - love that goes beyond words

Sadhguru explains the meaning of true love and gives us an effective technique to live love beyond words and to establish it permanently within us.

A sign of truer love

Sadhguru: In English to fall in love means: "falling in love" (literally: “Falling in love”). This is very apt because no one ascends into love or climbs into love. You fall in love because part of you has to go. If not your entire being, at least a part of you should collapse. Only then is it a love affair. You are ready to give up one part of yourself in favor of the other. This means that someone else has become much more important than you.

You fall in love because part of you has to go.

Unfortunately, what most people mean by "love" is just a bargain that benefits both parties.

One day a man named Shankaran Pillai was walking into a park. There was a beautiful woman sitting on a stone bench. He sat down with her on the bench. After a few minutes he moved a little closer to her. She slipped away from him. He waited a few minutes and then moved a little closer in their direction. She avoided him. He waited a little more and kept sliding in her direction. Now she was sitting at the end of the bench. He reached out and touched her. She pushed in away. He just sat there for a while, then fell on his knees, picked a flower and handed it to her with the words, “I love you. I love you like I've never loved anyone before. "
She went soft. In the intoxication of emotions, she gave herself to him. So the time passed and evening came. Shankaran Pillai stood up and said, “I have to go now. It's eight o'clock and my wife is expecting me. "
She called: “How are you going? You just said that you love me! "
“Yes, but it's time. I have to go!"

We usually set up framework conditions for our relationships that are comfortable for us and from which we benefit. People have physical, psychological, emotional, financial or social needs. One of the most effective ways to meet these needs is to tell people, "I love you." This so-called "love" has become like a mantra, "Open sesame." By saying this, you are trying to get what you want.

Everything we do serves in some way to meet certain needs. When you realize this, there is a way of making love your natural trait. But people continue to lie to themselves by believing that the relationships they have entered into because they bring convenience, comfort, and wellbeing are actually love relationships. I am not saying that there is no experience of love in any of these relationships, but it is within certain limits. It doesn't matter how many times "I love you" has been said - if a few expectations and requirements are not met, everything falls apart.

How to love unconditionally

When you talk about love, it always means that it has to be unconditional. In fact, there is no such thing as conditional or unconditional love. It's just like that: there are conditions and there is love. The moment there is a condition, it is an agreement. Maybe a good deal, maybe a good agreement - maybe many people have made excellent agreements in life - but that won't fulfill you, it won't take you to another dimension. It's just plain convenient.

What you do outside of yourself is always subject to a variety of conditions. But love is an inner state - how you are inside can definitely be unconditional.

When you talk about "love" it doesn't have to be pleasant because most of the time it isn't. It takes away your life force. Love is not beautiful because it gnaws at you. If you want to be in love, you shouldn't be. As a person, you have to be ready to fall, only then can it happen. If you maintain a strong personality in this process, it's just a comfortable situation, that's all. We have to recognize: what is an agreement and what is a real love relationship? A love relationship doesn't have to be with a specific person. You can have a wonderful love relationship with life.

What you do and what you don't do depends on your environment. Our actions are based on external circumstances. What you do outside of yourself is always subject to a variety of conditions. But love is an inner state - how you are inside can definitely be unconditional.

Make love the way you are

When you are a piece of life it is natural to love. Everyone is able to love, but unfortunately many people have crippled themselves with all kinds of belief systems, opinions, philosophies and ideologies - everything but life.

Love is not imported from heaven

Many people proclaim that they love God or believe that God loves them. It is believed that love is something that must be imported from heaven. But does anyone really know whether God loves or not? We bow to the Creator of this great creation - a creation that is simply overwhelming. We bow to the Creator, but we do not know whether He is love or bliss or peace.

Love is a human emotion

Human beings are capable of love when they want to. Unfortunately, we want to export everything beautiful in our life to heaven and live on this planet without consideration. Love, joy, bliss - these are human possibilities.

A simple process

Love has nothing to do with anyone else. Love is never between two people. It is something that happens in you, and what happens in you doesn't have to be subject to anyone else. Sit down and look at something that doesn't mean anything to you - maybe a tree or a pebble, a worm, or an insect - for 15 to 20 minutes a day. After a while you will notice that you can look at it with just as much love as your wife, husband, mother or child. Maybe the worm doesn't know. It doesn't matter. If you look at everything with love, the whole world becomes beautiful in your perception. You realize that love is not something you do - love is the way you are.