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Career engine respect

As nice as the study time is: after years in overcrowded lecture halls, one would like to be rewarded for the hardships of being a student at some point. Better times await with graduation: finally being able to make a difference, finally earning real money, finally being respected as an academic.

Wait a minute: respect? Admittedly, if I asked what you are looking forward to after graduating, you probably wouldn't think of respect first. And yet it is part of career planning: When you start your professional life, you automatically expect respect for your achievements. However, this will not be given to you. Neither in the job interview nor in the further course of your career. You will have to make sure that you are respected.

But don't worry: Respect won't be as difficult as it is with a doctorate.

Respect is not a one-way street

There are two basic forms of respect. The so-called horizontal respect is an attitude that is based on the fact that basically all people are equal. Anyone who has internalized this knowledge will treat everyone with respect. The other form of respect is the attitude we take towards someone we look up to - for example because we are impressed by their achievements. And we have to earn this kind of respect first by giving others a good reason to take us seriously and treat us with respect.

Take your favorite professor as an example. What do you like about him or her? I'll bet a student's monthly salary that the answer has to do with respect. This person is not speaking down to you from the throne of their academic title, but rather as equals. She recognizes your achievements, can also praise you, perceives you as a person with your characteristics and is ready to support and encourage you. You, as a personality, not just as a matriculation number.

What you get from this teacher is respect. And that is exactly why you are responding. Respect is not a one-way street - we get it by setting an example. Just like your professor.

What respect is ...

On your career path, too, keep an eye out for people who meet you on an equal footing. The origin of the word "respect" already indicates that a respectful perspective always has something to do with the point of view of the other: Respicere in Latin means "to look back". Respect is therefore related to terms like "consideration" and "consideration".

When we show our respect to someone, it means that we value them, give them attention, or give them honor. We can only do this if we are ready to put ourselves in his shoes and recognize that his needs should be taken into account in communication as much as our own.

That is the second important basic principle of respect: the principle of eye level.

... and what not

Let's stay with your favorite professor for a moment. Maybe he's 'just' a doctor, or he just recently graduated. Nevertheless, he is more popular with you and your fellow students than many a highly paid C4 professor who stands in front of the auditorium and loudly demands more respect instead of responding to his students.

The latter is on the wrong track. You will come across this common mistake more often as a career starter, for example with one or the other superiors. Respect is often confused with fear and submission.

A lecturer - or a boss - who blows you down wants to make you docile. On the other hand, someone who listens to you with genuine interest deserves your respect. He will help you in the long term as someone to whom the hierarchy is more important than the working atmosphere.

Resilience - because not everyone has respect

And what do you do with the other kind of boss or colleague? I have one more word with an “R” for you: resilience. This is the ability not only to withstand attacks from disrespectful people, but even to grow with them.

Resilience is based on three principles: optimism, acceptance and solution orientation. Optimism means being aware that every crisis will pass again. Acceptance means admitting to yourself that you are hurt - and then thinking about why. The solution orientation remains. Use your energy not on self-pity but on finding solutions.

If you follow these simple rules, disrespect will not blow you away.

In a nutshell: How respect works as a career engine

If you heed the most important tips on the topic of respect, you will get ahead - and not just in career planning:

  • Respect has to be earned! You can only get it by actively setting an example.
  • Real respect is based on the principle of eye level! In your career planning, stick to those who treat you equally.
  • Stand above disrespect! With every attack that you productively manage, you gain more respect.