Why do schoolchildren talk without a break

Upbringing: "You now have a break from broadcasting": How to keep children from interfering

Parents know it: When talking to friends on the phone or at the kitchen table, children are rarely silent. Most of the time, they want something right when mother and father are concentrating on a conversation. But when can children even learn that they shouldn't always chat in between?

"Between three and five years they can understand that they have to wait and see," explains Maria Große Perdekamp. She is the head of online counseling for the Federal Conference for Educational Counseling. But it takes some time for children to internalize this.

Children who talk in between: It depends on the situation

If the child keeps talking in between, parents can first draw attention to the situation with words: "Watch out, I would like to speak here," suggests Große Perdekamp. And of course it depends on the situation: Does the child complain because he is bored or does he urgently need help with something? If boredom is the reason for the spark, parents can alternatively suggest a toy or activity that the child can occupy themselves with for a moment.

But parents can also bring calm to the situation non-verbally: for example, by taking their child by the hand or touching it at the moment of in-between speech. This is how the youngsters feel: "I am noticed and I can say something right away." This strategy is worth a try, says Große Perdekamp.

Parents shouldn't have too high expectations of their children

In general, however, parents should not have too high expectations when it comes to the consideration of their children. "Simply to say 'Now wait a half an hour' is unrealistic." When it comes to small children, the only thing left for adults is to postpone important and undisturbed conversations until the children are not there. dpa