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Cyber ​​stalking through careless data sharing

Doesn't the public sharing of information simplify cyber stalking by strangers on the Internet? We explain what it's about.

Cyber ​​stalking has never been so widespread: it is becoming increasingly easy for cyber stalkers to observe, analyze and even track victims. In extreme cases, a follow-up on social networks turns into a murder of the stalking victim.

Who the Netflix series "You“Knows, probably shudders at the thought of the way cyber stalkers choose their unfortunate victims in the digital age. Unfortunately, one can find compiled stalker toolkits on the Internet that are helpful in collecting and storing all kinds of personal data. Potential victims of cyber stalking should know how to defend themselves against persecution and online stalking.

I asked my Facebook friends if anyone had ever experienced cyber stalking. The reports should help me understand how the stalkers are acting and what countermeasures are useful. The many incidents that my female Facebook friends described to me were gruesome.

The first message came from a friend who one day was visiting a children's farm with her daughter. Both stroked different animals and documented this with lots of photos - including selfies. The mother shared her moments together on Instagram. Unsuspecting, she also marked the place where both have been. At the time, the mother did not know that someone was watching her. The stalker later searched all the photos shared publicly about the children's yard on Instagram to find the mother-and-child selfies.

A few days later, the stranger started following her Instagram account. He left a few likes and also commented on various photos. She thought it was cute and they both started chatting. They met a few weeks later and it surprised them how many things they had in common. However, she quickly noticed that everything seemed to be going a little "too well". At one point he dropped the remark that he was happy to see her on the farm. This statement made her very uncomfortable. So she apologized and left the meeting.

The example shows the simplicity of tracking down someone who shared the location on social media. In order to protect yourself from (cyber) stalkers, it is better to keep your social media account private.

In my Facebook post I also asked if someone from my friends or their friends is sharing their location in real time. I read about the fact that many younger people are constantly transmitting the location for their friends in this way. This practice leaves many questions unanswered for me. Why should one voluntarily expose oneself to such danger? My wife and I solve this in a different way. Via “Find My Friends” we can check each other's whereabouts - but nobody else can see where we are.

A 28-year-old friend wrote to me that everyone can see where she is currently. This means that every accepted contact can keep track of when they go to work, drive to the gym or even when they are at home. - Why is someone willing to share such private things?

When I worked for the police's Digital Forensics Unit, I saw how far stalkers went. Cyber ​​stalkers try to collect various information about the stalking victims through search queries - in some cases the stalking unfortunately ended fatally.

Nowadays, stalking has gotten way too easy. Strangers scour the internet for useful data to sneak into victims' lives. And you will find what you are looking for. Even those who are not registered on social networks can access the content of public shared posts. Various crawlers are available for this.

But what about the people who keep their social media profiles private and don't let anyone into their digital life they don't know? Sounds a lot safer at first - unfortunately that's only half the story. There are always ex-partners who develop an obsession and become stalkers.

After I "You“Watching Netflix made me realize how easy it is to spy on the life of an ex-significant other. If the stalkers are still in the “circle of trust” of the victims, they have an easy time of it. They may know (shared) passwords, phone codes, or they may have (illegally) installed a tracking app before the breakup.
At this point, it should be mentioned that after a separation, all non-trustworthy apps should be deleted from the smartphone. At least you clean up the phone with it.

Some people unabashedly share their passwords for smartphones and online accounts with partners. Unfortunately, if the relationship breaks down, they forget to change their login information. Then it happens that ex-partners diligently read all of the other person's messages or stay informed about the other person's life in general.

A whole bunch of "what-if" questions come to mind. But I have the feeling that a lot of people don't worry about it or just shrug their shoulders. \ _ (ツ) _ / ¯

The potential loss of privacy and sensitive data is greater the more we step into the era of the digital world without thinking. The responsibility for the security of privacy lies to a large extent with ourselves. That is why it is absolutely necessary to maintain social media accounts and remove all those people who should no longer have a part in digital and ultimately real life. After a relationship has ended, passwords should be changed that the other can know about. You should look out for possible tracking apps in your smartphone and delete them. Anyone who thinks they are being spied on or being followed by a stalker should not hesitate and contact the police for advice.