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Less stress! 30 tips on how we can get through life happier

Most people want a life with less stress. We would like to do without the nerve-wracking situations of everyday life from time to time, avoid unpleasant encounters and arguments with fellow human beings.

One thing is certain: you cannot change the behavior of others. But very much his own behavior and his own attitude towards things. The most important motto is: stay calm, don't take things too seriously. In the following compilation you will find 30 more tips on how to make your life less stressful.

1) Don't dwell on problems

Always keep going ...

When a problem arises it can be annoying. However, one of the best remedies for stress is not to dwell on this problem for too long. Rather, if the problem seems solvable, focus on solving it rather than fretting that the problem occurred in the first place. The solution-oriented action takes us much further - both in terms of the results and in terms of our own satisfaction - than the anger about the unsuccessful thing itself.

2) Don't take everything personally

Don't take everything too seriously

One quality that makes you more relaxed about life is that you don't take everything personally. An unfriendly cashier, a disinterested conversation partner, an annoyed best friend. In the very few cases these moods have anything to do with you, but simply with the mood of the other. You shouldn't relate the louse that has run down the liver of your counterpart. Always remember that the other person also has a life in which everything may not have gone smoothly on the relevant day. Don't let each other's whims become your problem. And who knows, maybe by reacting positively you can improve the overall mood.

3) Appreciate your own skills

Learn to appreciate your own skills. At the same time, you should accept that you don't have to be able to do everything and that you don't always have to be better than others. Those who live with this idea stress themselves permanently and, above all, completely unnecessarily. Everyone is different and has special characteristics. Find your strengths and focus on your skills instead of worrying about what you cannot do.

4) Remain polite

Be polite. Not only because of the other person, but also because you are doing yourself a favor. In tense situations you should contribute to de-escalation, even if the original impulse may be different. At the end of the day, you'll be glad you didn't let yourself get into an argument. A practical strategy: take a deep breath and count to three in your mind. In this way, the spontaneous impulse to step on the tie of the conversation partner can be suppressed.

5) Create physical balance

Yoga as a physical balance

Of course, it is difficult to avoid stress just by staying calm. Sometimes there is hardly any other way - we are on the verge of an explosion, implosion or a nervous breakdown. If you feel this way more often, you should look for a physical balance. No matter where the stress plagues us, at home, in the office or on the go: just run away from it, run over it with your bike or swim it over the heap. It is important to find a physical outlet for all problems that play out in the head. With a physical balance, mental stress can also be better coped with or sweated away. Sport and outdoor activities also help with a change of scenery, get out of the office or living room, get to see a different environment or other people during sporting activity and get other thoughts.

6) Enjoy little things

Learn to appreciate small achievements, small gestures, and small things. Rome wasn't built in a day. And sometimes there is more truth and encouragement in a quiet word than in an exaggerated gesture. So sharpen the sensors for the subtleties of everyday life that you might otherwise simply overlook in the search for great happiness. After all, our happiness is made up of many little things!

Happiness through the little things

7) Laugh at yourself

Don't take yourself too seriously. While we tend to take many things personally, you should beware of false pride. If an accident happens to you, you are welcome to laugh about it yourself. Such a reaction defuses a situation immensely. Those who are known for reacting without humor in actually funny situations often have a hard time (e.g. at work or within the family). Rather, with the necessary self-irony, you quickly take the wind out of the sails of any critics or gleeful fellow men.

8) Interpret situations correctly and record them as experience

In stressful or unhappy situations, the question inevitably arises: Why? Why me? Why is that happend? Avoid getting lost in self-pity. Instead, try to understand the situation and learn from or grow from it for the future.

9) Realize that there are multiple angles

Everything has several angles

In order not to let conflicts get out of hand in the first place, make yourself aware at work, within the family or among friends that there are always several perspectives on the same situation. Each person perceives something differently and sees things from their own perspective. Before arguing about an issue, just try to put yourself in the other person's position and argue accordingly or show understanding.

10) Set personal goals

Don't forget to aim

Set specific goals. Many people are dissatisfied in life because they lack a specific goal. Negative mood can be avoided if you have life goals to work towards. Being in a diffuse state of doing nothing can be pleasant at times, but in the longer term, larger or smaller goals in life are a good starting point if you long for more satisfaction and new momentum. What goals you set depends entirely on you. Perform a sporting performance, jump with a parachute, get married, bake a great cake, paint a picture or go on a trip? Think about what your personal goals are and what you would enjoy and what could increase your satisfaction.

11) Don't be too defensive

Don't assume that someone wants you bad. Healthy suspicion is a good thing, but you shouldn't overdo it. Basically, it is more relaxing not to assume that everyone has bad intentions. Those who go through life with a strongly defensive attitude are constantly on the alert, even if they don't have to be. One thing is certain: you don't need that at all! Appreciate yourself as a person and assume that basically nobody will harm you.

12) Don't see change as a threat

Many tend to leave everything as it has always been. Just no change! In doing so, they seldom realize that changes are actually not a threat. Those who make the right use of opportunities and challenges will discover many new perspectives that were previously closed to them. Instead of sticking to the same rut, you are welcome to try something new. After all, it's better to have tried something than to regret not doing it.

13) Focus on the big picture, ignoring the unimportant

Big picture

Anyone who has to fulfill an order, want to keep an appointment or are under time pressure for other reasons should not stress themselves unnecessarily. A potential stress factor is getting caught up in unimportant details. Therefore, you should be able to distinguish the important from the unimportant and focus more on the big picture. So ask yourself: Is this point, this work step or this procedure necessary and useful? If not: put it away. In the end, you can think more clearly and save yourself stress and confusion. In general, mucking out unimportant, old or outdated ideas and things is liberating. This applies not only to a specific job, but to life in general. Let go of unnecessary ballast and concentrate on the essentials, namely yourself.

14) Stay flexible and not be too stuck

Stay flexible in life. Of course everyone can have their opinion. Sometimes, however, changing one's attitude towards something is no big deal. This does not show that you are a flag in the wind, but rather shows the ability to rethink your own decisions. Those who are open to the strange, the unknown and the extraordinary get more out of life. Even if something is not to your taste, you can still claim to have tried it. With rich experience, you can shape your life in a more diverse way and reduce prejudices and fears.

Life offers many possibilities

15) Let the past rest

Live in the present. You can learn from the past. Both positive and negative experiences, disappointments and injuries are part of your life. Even so, you shouldn't indulge in, ponder, or idealize the past. Rather, shape your current life with goals in the future. Remember that whatever comes up can be at least as good as past experiences and that bad things don't necessarily have to repeat themselves.

Give a chance every day

16) Express your own wishes

Admit to yourself when something is too much for you, when you would like something else better, or when you don't want to do something. An important step on the way to satisfaction is to formulate for yourself what you would like to have at the moment. In many cases, it can also be helpful to express your wishes to others. Nobody can read minds. The easiest way to turn your wishes into reality is to express them when you do not like something, you would like to change something or dare to do something.

17) Consciously reducing bad mood

In a good mood and satisfied with a cup of coffee

Consciously reduce stress and bad mood. That means, take time for yourself doing what you enjoy doing. Anyone who is stuck in a traffic jam, is stressed at work or is challenged in another situation can keep their heads above water with the thought of something nice. Simply reward yourself in everyday life with little things that put you in a good mood. If you are stuck in a traffic jam, you shouldn't get annoyed that things can't go on at the moment (because that doesn't help at all), but rather look forward to what awaits you at home. A hot bath, a good cup of coffee or a partner are just three of the many ways you can increase your satisfaction.

18) Make the environment positive

Make your environment positive. Those who feel comfortable at work or in their own four walls are more satisfied. How the design looks in practice is left to personal taste. However, you have the opportunity, above all, to influence your mood through the color design of a room. Motivational words or funny quotes also help to improve the mood. In the apartment you should have at least one room that you can retreat to and that you really enjoy. Close the door! Relaxation on.

Positive thoughts on the wall

19) Asking questions

There is a good tool to prevent misunderstandings and a bad mood: ask questions. If you do not understand something, encounter a lack of clarity or want to know something, you should not be afraid to ask others. Asking does not cost anything and helps to close knowledge gaps and, above all, to clear up ambiguities. Of course, you can also ask yourself questions: Am I satisfied with myself? What is bothering me? What could be better? A well-worded question often helps to make facts appear much clearer at once.

20) Respect the opinion of others

Don't close yourself off from other people's opinions. Different people, different perspectives. Accept the advice and opinions of your fellow human beings at least as thought impulses. Everyone has the right to their own opinion. You should at least accept them. Of course, it makes more sense to try to understand and understand opinions. This results in new perspectives for yourself and, on the other hand, a better understanding of the actions of the other person.

21) Assume the good

Think positive!

There are people who picture the dangers of life in the darkest of colors. When you plan something, you always assume the worst. Of course, these people will fail the exam, the plane will crash anyway, and they certainly won't get the job. Anyone who belongs to the genre of these black painters should ask themselves the question: Why do I actually assume the worst possible? The probability that the worst case occurs is at most as great as the possibility of catching the best case. Nobody can predict the future. So not tackling something because it is likely to fail anyway is not the right approach. Permanently negative expectations do not make you happy in the long run! Instead, learn to assess things realistically - with all their positive and negative sides.

22) Don't panic - it's time for Plan-B

Not everything always works out. That is normal. If a plan doesn't work, don't get stuck in a negative mood. It is better to use the time for a plan B. Ideally, you already have plan B in hand when you decide on plan A. With the right evasive strategy, you will feel more secure and in an emergency you will not be without an ace up your sleeve. Do not be discouraged. There are many ways to get there. Always remember: if Plan A fails, there will be 25 more letters in the alphabet.

Just dare to try again ...

23) The wiser gives in

There are people with whom you could argue really well. Whether it is a difference of opinion or a specific question of right and wrong, sometimes the tension is literally palpable. There is nothing wrong with expressing one's opinion within a certain framework. Before embarking on a real argument, however, consider whether it might not be wiser to simply ignore the other person in the relevant situation. With a sentence like: I accept that this is your opinion, but we don't have to talk about it anymore, the facts become: The wiser gives diplomatically, but still aptly, packaged. So also learn to avoid an argument if it can be foreseen that the argument will not be productive.

24) set limits

Set limits and don't be afraid of them. Many negative experiences result from the fact that a person does not set limits and allows others to take advantage of him. Clearly formulated boundaries are particularly important in work life or with friends. The time factor often plays a role in these limits. It's about the time you invest in others. Experience has shown that you always come across people who make excessive use of this factor. As soon as you find that your own life is suffering from the demands of another person, here is some advice: Don't let yourself be exploited. Set a clear limit: Up to here and no further! Whoever does this signals that they are ready to do certain things for another person or to invest time, but they also show that their willingness cannot be exploited.

25) Not feeling responsible for everything

Realize that you are not responsible for solving all of the world's problems. That is not to say that you should not get involved or be able to help other people solve their problems. Rather, it's about realizing that you're not always right here! should call if there is a problem. Some people simply cannot be helped, others can help themselves very well. So develop a sense of the extent to which you can burden yourself with the problems of others.

26) Keep Calm

Always with Tranquillity

Keep calm and carry on! Keep calm and move on. This wisdom has become a perennial favorite on T-shirts, mugs and posters. And it can be said that the statement is not that wrong. The strenght is to be found in serenity. Even in stressful or precarious situations, stay calm and keep a cool head. This way, unforeseen events can be clarified better and faster. Those who stay calm also save their nerves.With a little distance you will realize that staying calm was the right decision.

27) Collect ideas and be creative

Just think around the corner! Anyone looking for a solution to a problem or for general inspiration tends to tense up quickly. Relax and think outside the box. The more absurd the better. What is on your mind right now? It doesn't have to be the most absurd option that you end up choosing. But the openness to many possibilities allows you to become more flexible in your thoughts. And the results achieved speak for themselves in the end.

28) having hobbies

Many people find a balance in their hobby. Sports, singing, photography, pottery, cooking? What is your hobby The positive thing about a hobby is often that it is not just an activity that is fun, but also often takes place within a fixed framework. The yoga class is on Thursdays at 6 p.m. The hiking group meets every second Sunday or the band rehearsal is on Friday. Hobbies of this kind structure our week and often offer a ray of hope in stressful everyday life.

29) Communicate with others

Listen to your friend's opinion

Anyone who has a question, is faced with a decision or is looking for confirmation can use it to turn to friends. Explain your situation to the people you trust and hear what they have to say about it. Often people who know us well are able to assess situations and - even if we sometimes don't want to hear it - guide us on the right path with advice or a hint. So ask your parents, best friend, buddy or kids for their opinion. They are happy to help you.

30) Take time for yourself, treat yourself to something!

Time for yourself ...

Last but not least: take some time for yourself. Nobody can only be there for others. Use the time to relax, formulate desires and goals, do the things you enjoy. In this way, negative feelings, stress or bad mood can be compensated for. The important thing is: don't have a guilty conscience. If you want to be there for others, you have to eventually replenish your energy reserves in order to be fully operational when it comes to family, friends or work. Whether time on the sofa, party on the weekend, shopping in the city: treat yourself to something!

Enjoy life and just think about what Henry David Thoreau already knew:
The only wealth is life itself.